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As we purify and "get rid of" old unwanted emotional and physical toxins…we have more of our perfect selves to share.
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As the last of summer heat gives way to leaves beginning to fall from the trees, a detoxification of our body, mind and spirit is a way to work with nature on the inside. Our surroundings change in shape, color and texture…so can our lives…it feels natural and good to make changes with the seasons.
Let's break it down…
Body purification
There are so many environmental and processed food toxins our bodies must process everyday that our organs would be screaming for a break if we could hear them speak. A detox or purification program at least twice a year to clean your body out is highly recommended. The months before winter are a great time to do it. At a minimum, a detox could be to drink 2-4 liters of warm water daily to assist your organs in all they process. If your interested in a supportive and guided purification program, I am co-launching a tele-class with a nutritionist titled "Purify Your Body! Transform Your Life!" Email me at bettylouise@womenonair.biz.
Mind
September is a good month to do a pre-holiday detox on your emotions. Holiday celebrations are approaching soon and often times you are socializing with people you do not see regularly. What would it be to work through your old patterns and family cycles before you spend time with those from your past? To answer my own question…more meaningful and real.
Spirit
Purify your spirit and you will be letting go of past hurts and victimizations. As esoteric as it might sound, you must let go of the stories and dramas so the angels can help you re-wire your old patterns. You know the ones, the stuck cycles that do not work anymore and keep you holding back…the reward is a life of more freedom and fun.
Feel free to email me at bettylouise@womenonair.biz with any comments or questions. Be well.
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It is time to get your life de-cluttered from the schedules of summer with the kids.
How do you re-discover YOU?
Back to you starts with de-cluttering your thoughts from coordinating and planning for others' needs (kids, family vacations, summer camps, visits from/to relatives, etc.). When my daughter, who is now 19 and living independently year round, use to go back to school I would find my body and mind needing some extra down time to catch my breath and check in with me. This was my first summer without her, AND I now have time to write about my experience. I recommend (and you may have heard me say it before but it bears repeating) taking 30 seconds of silence to breathe at least 3 times per day….before every meal is an easy way to remember it. Note your thoughts without judgement and say hello to your body.
Purge Inside
When you have noticed your thoughts, you may find that it is thinking that does not serve you…negativity. John Gottman, in his marriage research, shows that relationships need a 5-1 ratio of positivity to negativity to be successful. Positivity starts on the inside. Negative thoughts are USELESS and it's time to say bye bye if it is self-critical or self-sabotaging in any way. Read Byron Katie (anything by her) or "Excuse me, Your Life is Waiting." by Lynn Grabhorn to get some funny and insightful thoughts on how to generate positivity in your life.
Containers for Your Thoughts
One container I often use with my clients is the Gremlin container. Your gremlins are the voices of self-sabotage and negative thinking that we ALL carry with us. There is a great book "Taming Your Gremlins," by Richard Carsen. He even has a Taming Your Gremlins Institute where corporate executives learn how to put those bad thoughts in cages. When you notice the self-bashing routine, play with putting those thoughts in a Gremlin container. I had a creative client that actually made clay figures to represent her Gremlins and would take the figures, verbally tell them they were not needed, and set them in a drawer or box. Letting go of negative thoughts is one of the greatest contributions to your inner peace AND World Peace.
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The bottom line is that coaching is about CHANGE. That is why I read books like "Changing for Good" by James Prochaska, John Norcross and Carlo Diclemente. If you are a "change agent geek" like i am, you love to dissect and understand how to postively move people forward in their lives. These three brilliant PhDs outline a 6 stage process of change. Listen to this 3 minute podcast which can help YOU break through and understand what makes changes last.It is so funny that we resist change naturally as it is one of our few certainties in life. Enjoy the process of change!
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When you are a life coach/passionate change agent, you try stuff…you want to shake things up…even if it is uncomfortable…otherwise we remain in the status quo. I want to combine a couple of topics I have discussed in this blog so far…listening and perspectives. Remember the levels of listening…level 1 is internal, level 2 is focused on other, and level 3 is global (see blog from 3/11/08). Stop and take 10 seconds to check in with what is right beneath the surface in your level 1. Now listen to what is happening in the space around you in the level 3. These two levels are always available to provide you with information. When you stop and notice the level 1 and level 3 places of listening without judgement, you more easily make decisions based on your intuition and truth. If you notice that you are stuck in a negative judgement, it is time to look at some new perspectives (see blog from 4/8/08). Get up, move around and sit down in another chair and look at the judgement from there…you may be amazed at how fresh new ideas can manifest from building the muscle of exploring new perspectives. When you become more conscious about listening and perspectives, your life takes on deeper meaning and more fulfillment. This is not a new program to add to your schedule…this is about paying attention to the old schedule in a new way.
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The first time I realized that our thoughts were perspectives that could be changed, I understood the power of our choices in every single moment. Our thoughts can either support us and give us the energy to achieve our goals, neutralize our ideas or shut them down altogether. How do your thoughts support you?Perspective work allows for expansion of possibilities. It is an invaluable tool when you feel stuck or trapped about something in your life. One of my clients hated going to her in-laws for holiday gatherings and yet would drag herself kicking and screaming inside often making herself sick over the whole ordeal of decision making. We looked at a range of viewpoints for her to consider on this, including considering her husband's desire for her to be with him. She resolved it by choosing not to go to each and every function giving herself a break on occasion. Then when she did attend, she found she could bring a more positive spirit and actually enjoyed the time spent with her husband. Instead of dreading the family invitations which use to deflate her fun, she started planning stops and side trips to make it more of a satisfying adventure for her. At the start of our work, she could not even imagine this possibility.Opening up the lens through which you see gives you the opportunity to adventure, play and relish the creativity you have available all the time. A note about standing in another's shoes…we teach this skill in relationship coaching. It helps lay the groundwork for deeper communication, understanding and compassion in all of our relationships. If you want to learn more about how to use the power of perspective, listen to the audio clip from coachbetty and sign up for a sample session at www.coachbetty.com/store/html.
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One of the things I help my clients notice is what feedback they pay attention to in the world. We look at how they are interpreting the positive and negative information received from interacting with others. And…finally check out how their interpretations support where they are headed in their lives. I worked with a client who was a talented writer that wasn't feeling successful although had written two books and wrote a local column in the newspaper. One thing I learned in our exploration together is that he use to save and read rejection letters from publishers. He wanted to make sure he wasn't missing any learning. In addition, he told me about an event he attended where someone recognized him for his news column. The woman said to him, "I just love your little column." What he interpreted about this incident was that the woman thought his column was little and worthless. Not a winning formula for thinking success. As he learned to re-focus his thinking to the positive "I just love…" part of the feedback, he began to feel better about his work. Now, he not only feels successful, but is getting his 3rd book published and writes for several national magazines. So why don't you try switching over to the bright side of the road…see what happens when you focus on the positive feedback only for 1 week. Let go of the negative…and remember…
YOU CAN IF YOU THINK YOU CAN
If you think you are beaten, you areIf you think you dare not, you don'tIf you like to win, but you think you can'tIt's almost certain you won't
If you think you'll lose, you're lostFor out in the world we findSuccess begins with a fellow's willIt's all in the state of mind
Life's battles don't always goTo the stronger or faster manBut sooner or later, the man who winsIs the man who thinks he can.
- C. W. Longenecker
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In coaching, we help clients examine how they are designing their life agendas. We all have "little A" agendas and "Big A" agendas.Our "little A" is all we do in our lives to keep things running smoothly…paying the bills, getting the kids to school, feeding the pets, exercising, etc…the particles that need to be handled (and with this technological maze we live in…that is not always easy AND can take a tremendous amount of time).Our "Big A" is when we are aligned with our life purpose and having a blast while making a positive contribution to the world. This is where coaches talk about calling forth your magnificence, getting at your essence or living life authentically. In society, there is space for your "Big A" if you are willing to step into it, however it interacts with your "little A" for the most part. Life coaches have space for your "little A," however we interact with your "Big A." * And so I ask you…how much of your life do you live in the little A and how much in the Big A? If you find yourself always in the particles and never have time for what you want to be doing in life, I invite you to consider a sample session www.coachbetty.com/store/html. * Co-Active Coaching by Whitworth, Kimsey-House, Sandahl
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My sincere welcome to the Coach Betty blog. After quite a bit of consideration about how I wanted to use this blog, I decided to share what my clients have found helpful from coaching skills I have learned and practiced for over 20 years. I hope my bits of advice will help you in your relationships, your work, and your life. Some of what I write will be a reminder, and some will be pointing you to more awareness about concepts you already understand…like listening, for instance.I have observed with 100s of people the impact that listening can make on our lives.We all listen all the time, so what is the big deal. Coaching training shows us there is more to listening than we might imagine. Let's dissect the art and skill of listening a bit more. Let me refer here to the first 3 levels of listening based on the Coaches Training Institute/San Rafael, California. Level 1 listening is ALL about you…woohoo, there is a time and place for it to be ALL about you. At level 1, you are listening and thinking "what does this mean to me?" When you are learning something new you are at a Level 1 listening place (hopefully all your life you have some level 1 experiences). Level 2 listening is a sharp focus on another person…ALL your attention is "over there." Think of two lovers in a restaurant just hanging onto every word…no one else exists during those moments.Level 3 listening is global listening…using all your senses to hear what is being said/felt…your 6th sense (intuition) is what listens here. Comedians who know right when to hit that punchline have excellent level 3 listening skills.Coach Betty invites you to explore the following this week:Stop and notice with your partners, children, family, friends, colleagues, and clients where you listen from:level 1 (all about me), level 2 (all about them), or level 3 (taking it all in)If you want to experience the power of being "listened to"…sign up for a sample session at www.coachbetty.com/store.html
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